Once upon a time there was this rejected little girl. She felt so outcasted that she became a loner. No one wanted to play with her nor talk to her. She didn’t know why. But it destroyed her mentally and emotionally.
When she grew up, the same thing happened and still she never know why. Sure, she was introverted and kept to herself but that didn’t mean that she didn’t want friends. She could often hear others mumble under their breaths about her, thinking they couldn’t be heard. But they were. Then she decided to seek a therapist because at this point she still didn’t get why she was constantly rejected. And the rejection had gotten so bad that her self-esteem was destroyed. The therapist and others who’d she came into contact with would always preach to her that she “didn’t need to worry about it or to stop letting it get to her or even to not care what anyone said or thought.”
Over and over throughout her life, she kept hearing these words from teachers, from school counselors, etc. But then all the sudden she realized that it wasn’t what people were saying about her at all. I was what they did or how they reacted towards her which made her the way she became. And the things is PEOPLE AREN’T BORN with low self-esteem, low self-confidence or feelings of inadequacy and such experiences. They’re formed this way over time, because of how others may have treated them.
My personal point is that, other people’s ACTIONS SPEAK LOUDER THAN WORDS. People don’t have to say anything to you to make you feel unaccepted. People don’t have to say anything to you to make you feel fat, people don’t have to say anything to you to make you feel ugly or too skinny or too dumb, gay ,too white or too black or anything because it was their reactions and actions towards you (which you were aware of) that made you feel the way you did. And when asked why they stood in your face and made excuses for it.
We need to stop making excuses for others behaviour and especially not others because it’s just a lie. Our behaviour affects others. Our looks, our mannerisms, our body language, our rudeness, or our being impolite. I know that we are not all perfect, but making excuses for those who are or claim different, is even more insulting. We should all start taking responsibility for how we act around the less fortunate. Because this may be, no, this is (in my opinion) the reason why people, teens, gays, people in poverty develop depression feel rejected and then commit suicide.
September 12, 2016