I asked a Facebook group this question…

I’m not asking for myself. I’m asking what YOU’D do.

When you’ve met someone in a group that you really like and y’all begin messaging, calling, video, etc, back and forth on a regular bases,

1. Would YOU assume that you two are exclusively chatting with one another only?

2. Would YOU keep accepting more friend requests and chatting with others as well thus keeping your options open?

The best answers I received were:

  • If I wanted it to be exclusive I would tell them that. I wouldn’t cut off people I was cool with or not talk to someone who was just looking for a friend though. Too many times people overthink things and go to the extremes only to get their feelings hurt in the end because instead of making sure you are on the same page they just assume. None of us are mind readers
  • Communication is everything and I feel i would pick 1. If we talk all the time I would make it known what my intentions are and build a relationship from that connection.
  • I never assume anything other than we’re getting to know each other and we’re friends. I would also talk to other people if I wanted to and I would expect that the other person would until we meet and it becomes something more serious
  • I’d never assume I was the only one they were talking to. If I was wondering about it I’d just keep it real and come right out and ask them. Life’s too short to waste time wondering.
  • As said above don’t assume, and definitely communicate
  • I friend zone everyone. I relationship comes off the back of all that we have in common. The need for what is acceptable to both needs to be understoid, so no one gets hurt.
  • Talking to someone regularly doesn’t commit you to them in any way. Like most adults, I wouldn’t assume any exclusivity until we agreed to that.
  • This level of codependency, and assumption of a fast paced committment screams that whom ever has this expectation needs some counseling.
  • Well for some they might be lonely and this type of conversation is stimulating to that feeling. However their can be misleading words that make some feel that it is a relationship. Seriously behind a screen relationships are not built because only being in a physical contact can you actually see the real heart. Words on a text are just that, and the tone of the words are not conveyed.
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