WHY ASK WHY?

WHY ASK WHY

A major mistake and habit of mine was
that I’d always volunteered too much detailed information

(I know that I do it now on my blog, but this example is completely different) lol!

Especially to this “particular person
who normally acted like they could care
less but was entitled to know

However, he expected it of me 

But when I’d ask him a question his tone and body language alone signified defensivness and he’d respond with
Why?”

As if it weren’t any of my business, and as a common courtesy it should have been which in my book is considered respect

A therapist of mine once gave me a great rebuttal suggestion

And that was to turn right back around
and respond with
Why ask why?”

And one time I tried it with this “particular person” and it completely threw him off gaurd

I’m assuming that it caught him off guard and the control was no longer in his hands…
While he stood looking confused I said,
Now you know how it feels

© she
June 23, 2017

DISTRUCTIVE WORD

When you say hurtful (verbally abusive) words to another, how dare you think that those words aren’t remembered or effective to the psych? Out of anger or not, you need to watch what you say! Some words can’t be forgiven and if they are, the abuse will continue…

I’ve been in a relationship with someone for the past three months and they’ve called me every name in the book out of anger (mutherfucker, dumbass, bitch, petty, that i deserved to be alone because of my insecurities, Ms.know-it-all) etc, etc and they’ve even told me that I deserved all the abusive treatment that I received from my previous 18 yrs of marriage) but not have I ever once stepped to thier level and responded with the same violent distructive words that they have… and trust me, they deserved it.

Now, if this isn’t an emotionally and verbally abusive narcissist than I don’t know what is. All I know is that I deserve better than this person. 

THEY’RE THE SAME PERSON


THEY’RE THE SAME PERSON

As we all know
Narcissists come in all shapes,
forms and sizes.

Eighteen years
It took me eighteen years
to leave my Narcissist​ husband
It was hard
but I finally did it

Six months
It’s been six months
no contact
And I’m doing well
I was doing well

UNTIL, I moved back home
To my home state
reluctantly and unfortunately
where my Narcissist mother lives

She’s been roughing me up
Treating me just as worse
Making my briefly peaceful life
A living hell
Chewing me up
Spitting me out

I’ve gone no contact
on her before too,
but out of loneliness
I decided to give her
yet another chance…
BIG MISTAKE

Narcissists are Narcissists,
some of the worst covert
low down dirty,
evil manipulating human
beings

Whether they be a spouse
or a parent
they’re still ruthless people
They’re still practically
THE SAME PERSON
but only in different forms

Since I split
from my narcissist husband,
my Narcissist​ mother
has scooped me up,
chewed me up and
spit me out so many times
in the last six months

WTF!? I’m done!
I’ve had enough.
If she shows up
on my door step
Or calls again
I’m calling the police.

No matter who wears
the mask
It’s still the same person
behind it

© she
July 8, 2017
Artwork by @ shevioletmoon

GOING FOR THE JUGGLER


GOING FOR THE JUGGLER

Name calling
And not just
name calling
Out of my
name calling
Belittling
Touching on
very sensitive
personal topics
That I as a
person who dare
not lower myself
or stoop to
that type of
level would
do

Words speak loud
Words speak clear
No matter how pissed

You need to
hold your tonque
Or all will hear

Yet you feel
all should be
ignored
When you think
the sting has
demeninished
Well, it hasn’t
demeninished
Nor has it
evaporated into
thin air
I’m wondering why
you just had to
go there

© she
May 19, 2017
Artwork by ME aka shevioletmoon